Don’t too quick to judge

I don’t know why, when I heard this part of speech (read below) for the first time, I felt something (unusual) happened.. it simply touch my heart.

But then.. somebody decided not to judge me and just think of me as just an human being, who has some goodness in them. We have to do that for other people, we have to have some passion with them in giving them Islam. He never actually give me dakwah to Islam, he never actually told me to pray, just through his accompany, little by little by little, good year long process that he did this with me for.

This part of speech was told by Ustadh Nouman (which make me more.. *sorry, can’t find the appropriate word to describe what I feel*) when he told his story about why finally he decided to commit to Islam and study the Qur’an. Ustadh Nouman met a friend as he describes above when he was in college.

In everyday life, maybe we often too quick to judge someone. We make assumptions and believe that our assumptions were true without try to find the real facts. We easy to hate others without reason.. We need to change our attitude. We never know, when we act kind to others (whatever their condition at that time).. maybe someday it will lead to good great things (insya Allah).

Accomplishment Vs Effort

Recently, I really like to watch ustadh Nouman Ali Khan’s video lecture (you could find it on Youtube if you want). Actually, I have been saved the videos since 2014, I copied that from my friend before she come back to her hometown, but so sadly I never have time (or maybe make time to finish watch it).

In one of his lecture (I forget the title), ustadh Nouman said “Allah does not value accomplishments, Allah values effort“. That statement is related to human habit (yes, our habit) to value things based on accomplishment. That so true, it often happen to me (I won’t neglect). When our friends, our relatives, or someone else accomplish something, for example: finish their study, get an awesome job, buy home, buy car, get married, traveling around the world, meet important person (well..I can continue this list and start thinking about everything that I want, but I won’t do that :D), we value that person by what they have accomplished. We rarely see the effort. For almost all human beings that ever exist in this world, accomplishment matter more than effort. That’s a fact.

You know, every person is not have same ability, they have different state when begin something. We as human, for us, see the result is easier than see the effort. Effort often invisible. And because we put human standard in our life, we tend to have intention to accomplish more thing over and over again. And sometimes show it to the world (I mean to the society around us) that we already accomplish this and that. And when we can’t show thing, we will begin to feel bad about our self. When this happen, please remember that “Allah does not value accomplishments, Allah values effort“. So, we have to put in every best effort to reach our goals. No matter what the result will be, because it is beyond our control. The results are Allah’s rights. And put belief that Allah knows the best for us is enough for us.

If you remember the great story that Qur’an teaches us, there are the story about Prophet Ibrahim AS and also the story about Fir’aun. From both the stories we can learn that: “Success has nothing to do with wealth. And failure has nothing to do with poverty.
May Allah gives us understanding and makes us an humble person. Aamiin.

Tentang Pertemuan dan Perpisahan

Siang itu seperti kebanyakan hari-hari biasanya, di dalam ruangan kantor yang seharusnya dihuni oleh 9 orang itu, aku sedang disana sendirian. Tiba-tiba terdengar seseorang mengucapkan salam dari pintu luar. Tak lama kemudian, orang tersebut mengetuk pintu ruanganku.

Ternyata seorang ibu-ibu, umurnya sekitar akhir 30-an tahun. Namanya ibu Nunik Prihastuti (ibunya menyuruh aku meng-googling namanya di saat memperkenalkan diri). Bu Nunik bercerita bahwa beliau terkena kanker payudara, sementara itu beliau juga seorang janda yang harus menghidupi keempat orang anaknya yang masih kecil. Beliau datang bukan untuk meminta-minta, tapi beliau datang untuk menjual coklat, namanya coklat Yonik. Dengan usaha itulah beliau mencari nafkah untuk membiayai pengobatannya dan juga untuk biaya anak-anaknya.

Hal yang sangat spesial dari bu Nunik adalah beliau sangat tegar dan kuat. Itulah kesan pertamaku ketika berjumpa dengan ibunya. Bayangkan, dengan kondisinya yang seperti itu, beliau mendatangi calon pembeli dari pintu ke pintu dan membawa sekardus coklat (yang bisa dibilang cukup berat). Dari setiap kalimat beliau, kujumpai semangat perjuangan yang luar biasa.

Dan terakhir, ketika kami akan berpisah, aku sempat bilang:

“Bu, maaf ya, di ruang sini sepi. Ibu nanti ke ruang jurusan saja bu, disana biasanya lebih banyak orang.”

Namun jawaban ibunya sungguh membekas di ingatanku.

“Tidak apa-apa mbak. Semua itu kan sudah ada Yang Maha Mengatur. Kita dipertemukan hari ini juga itu saya percaya sudah diatur sama Yang di Atas. Termasuk perpisahan juga mbak. Kita mesti ikhlas kalau kapan saja yang (hanya) dipinjamkan ke kita itu diambil lagi.”

Jleb. Duh, kayaknya Allah menakdirkanku bertemu dengan bu Nunik memang sudah diatur sedemikian rupa. Nasehat ibunya ngena banget ke diriku yang.. (entahlah saat itu lagi galau gak jelas).

Terima kasih bu Nunik untuk nasehatnya. Melihat ibu yang setegar itu rasanya malu banget diri ini kalau sampai tidak bisa bersyukur dan malah larut dalam kesedihan yang tidak jelas. Semoga Allah senantiasa menguatkan langkah ibu. Aamiin.

Just Another Motivation

I just want to share this nice story / advice with you. Hope you will find this useful:), especially for those who feel rejected or turned down by other.

 

Actors audition to get parts in a play. Quite often the actor gets turned down. Being turned down a number of time is very discouraging and the actor tends to lose self-confidence. So their agents tell them:

“You are an apple. They are looking for oranges. This does not mean you are a bad actor or a bad apple. They simply want something different.”

Some people like spaghetti with a puttanesca sauce. Some people prefer an arrabiata sauce and some like a traditional Neapolitan. These are all different but there is no suggestion that one is better than the other.

Source: How to have a beautiful mind, by Edward de Bono

Belajar dari Negara Barat

Beberapa waktu yang lalu, ketika mengikuti Studi Intensif Al Qur’an di kampus UII, saya dan teman-teman mendapatkan banyak ilmu baru dari para ustad yang mengisi acara tersebut. Salah satu hal yang masih terngiang di benak saya adalah sebuah pepatah (bahasa kerennya mungkin quote) yang cukup mengena yang disampaikan oleh seorang ustad yang kemudian juga diulang lagi oleh ustad yang lain. Kira-kira seperti tulisan di bawah inilah yang disampaikan oleh beliau:

The great Islamic scholar of the 19th century, Muhammad Abdo wrote, after his return from France in 1888, that “I went to the West and saw Islam, but no Muslims; I got back to the East and saw Muslims, but not Islam”. [1]

“Aku pergi ke Barat dan melihat Islam, tapi bukan Muslim. Kemudian aku pergi kembali ke Timur dan melihat Muslim, tapi bukan Islam.”

Tidak tahu mengapa, mendengar pepatah tersebut, ada sesuatu di dalam diri saya yang ikut membenarkannya. Menurut Dr. Ahmed Hasan, “Most of the core values of western countries, such as freedom, human rights, and justice, are universal and does not conflict with Islam or any religion, even yet they are important constituents of Islamic teachings.”

Dari pengalaman yang hanya sebentar mencicipi tinggal di negara Barat, sedikit banyak saya mengamati dan merasakan secara langsung bagaimana beberapa nilai-nilai Islam memang lebih eksis disana ketimbang di negara saya sendiri. Contoh yang paling nyata terlihat adalah masalah kebersihan. Saya masih ingat di hari pertama mendarat di benua Biru, tepatnya di bandara kota Milan, betapa bahagianya saya saat itu. Ketika keluar dari bandara, di saat itulah saya rasakan udara yang begitu bersih dan segar, membuat saya benar-benar lupa bahwa saya sedang berada ribuan kilometer dari rumah, sendirian pula. Di sepanjang jalan menuju ke kota Turin, saya begitu kagum dengan pemandangan yang begitu rapi yang saya dapati di sisi kiri dan kanan jalan.

Kekaguman saya semakin menjadi-jadi ketika mendapati sistem transportasi di kota Turin yang serba teratur. Lalu, sebagai pejalan kaki saya juga merasa dimanjakan, pasalnya setiap mau menyeberang jalan, mobil-mobil dan kendaraan bermotor langsung menginjak rem untuk berhenti dan memberi kesempatan bagi pejalan kaki untuk lewat terlebih dahulu..yang pastinya pemandangan yang satu ini jarang banget terlihat di negeri sendiri.

Negara-negara Barat juga terkenal dengan jamnya yang super tepat waktu. Beberapa kali saya ditinggal sama bus padahal tinggal 5 meteran dari pintu masuk bus, padahal saya sudah lari-lari pula, sedih banget gak sih. Ditinggal sama kereta juga pernah, ahaha, untungnya tiketnya masih bisa dipakai untuk kereta yang selanjutnya. Untuk negara-negara Eropa bagian utara seperti Swedia, tepat waktunya lebih ekstrim. Ibaratnya disana itu gak ada jadwal yang PHP (pemberi harapan palsu), kalau jam 10.30 jadwal bus lewat, ya bener-bener jam segitu busnya bakal lewat.

Jadi inti dari tulisan singkat ini..sekedar uneg-uneg bahwa tidak semua nilai-nilai yang ada di masyarakat Barat itu buruk sehingga masyarakat Timur harus menutup diri dari hal tersebut. Banyak sekali hal yang baik yang bisa dicontoh dari negara Barat. Ambillah hikmah dari siapapun, dimanapun.

[1]http://www.foreignpolicyjournal.com/2011/07/02/democracy-religion-and-moral-values-a-road-map-toward-political-transformation-in-egypt/

50 Things that I Missed from Europe

Assalamu’alaykum. Hello, it has been a very long time since my last post in this blog. Recently I was very busy dealing with my daily work. It is rather hard to find time for writing or sharing something in this blog. But today, my ritual of “failed to move on” from my memories while lived in Europe gives me an idea to write about “50 Things that I Missed from Europe”. Ahaha, very long list right? Here they are..

  1. The fresh air
  2. The neatness
  3. The public transport system using card
  4. The metro
  5. The tram
  6. The bus
  7. Torino, my beautiful city😉
  8. Alps
  9. Monte dei Cappucini (a place/hill in Turin where we can see the Alps from there)
  10. Juventus stadium
  11. Juventus store
  12. Juventus football player
  13. Piazza Castello
  14. Via Garibaldi (my favorite place for window shopping)
  15. Fiume Po
  16. Politecnico di Torino, my beloved campus
  17. Porta Nuova
  18. Gelateria La Romana, where I can eat my favorite ice cream “cento cinquanta anni”, numero uno nel mondo!
  19. Tiger store
  20. Italian pizza
  21. Eat kebab
  22. Fetrinelli book store
  23. The kindness of Torinese (Turin people)
  24. Say “ciao” and “grazie”.. “e prego”.. tutto Italian words:)
  25. My friends, especially from Italian class
  26. Prof. Galleani, my very cool lecturer
  27. My little friend Rumaisha
  28. The sounds of Italian accent
  29. No ants
  30. No sweat, so I can take a bath once in two days, jajaja
  31. Travelling
  32. Aosta
  33. The snow
  34. The cold
  35. Wear boot shoes
  36. Take many pictures
  37. The Alps view from the cable car
  38. The Alps view from the sky (inside the plane)
  39. Hunting cheap flight tickets
  40. Using Italian train: regionale, trenitalia, italo
  41. Reading maps
  42. Shopping at IKEA
  43. Being part time student and part time traveler
  44. Switzerland
  45. Geneva
  46. CERN
  47. Geneva’s country side
  48. Nutella
  49. Twix, my favorite chocolate
  50. Drink cappucino

Well, frankly I have plan to write about 99 things. But, because right now I’m getting tired, so I decide to continue this list later. Stay tuned!😉